Perceptions

unknown_username

 Someone in the street just shouted at me "Major smackhead!" infact I have never taken any illegal drugs in my life. The reason I look the way I do is a mixture of Vertigo and depression.
 I knew some people seemed to be looking at me stange and now I know what they are thinking. I dont feel as though I want to ever go out on my own again! I wish I was emotionally strong enough to stand up for myself but allas I am not.

YOUNG_GUN

Oh no dear donut, doesnt matter the slightest what you look like. most the time its probably paranoi

one of my best mates if not best had problem with depression last year and was very difficult, he'd call me at 1am saying can we go for drive etc. best thing to do is keep busy be positive, get your friends to do stuff with you and it will slowly go

personally i look like s h it half the time due to tiredness, exzema and other stuff i couldn't care less what people think or if they stare. probably all in your head mate

hope you get better soon mate

regards
John

lol also i go out and people think im 30ish when im 23 i just laugh dont let it affect me the slightest just need to get thick skin :P

Mr_Miyagi

maybe people only look at you because they recognise you from the Guinness Book of Records?




Holding the record for worlds biggest nose is nothing to be sniffed at! Cheer up!

unknown_username

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maybe people only look at you because they recognise you from the Guinness Book of Records? Holding the record for worlds biggest nose is nothing to be sniffed at! Cheer up!
Posted by Mr_Miyagi

 Definetly could be related!




 I dont care what I look like! I just had a problem with not feeling like I could stand up for myself in the face of verbal abuse.
 Your advice to cheer up! Was good advice but not something I know how to do so for now I will just have to find a way of dealing with being misrable.

YOUNG_GUN

donut, try not to think about it im sure its just paronia through being depressed. most places nowadays ppl dont care what you look like imo

Have you got partner? close friends? family, i suggest do speak to one of the closest and do stuff to keep your mind of it. when you go out if with someone you wont really care as much

chin up mate hope you get better soon, your top bloke im sure be ok soon just try not to think about it as hard as it is

MAXALLY

Dont let the custard creams get ya down mate!!

I have ALWAYS found you as a top bloke on here, so seriously do not worry yourself about the idiots out there! Chill out, chin up and I will see you in a forum SnG soon I hope  

DOHHHHHHH

You could be in the book of records Donut for being the only guy in the World who's left eye is an inch lower than his right eye ! 

lol

And "standing up for yourself" to those sort of idiots is not only pointless, it's exactly what they want to see - you gettin upset/wound up. 

Chin up fella - No need to go out now anyway tesco deliver your beer, and dominoes your snap!!

Just gotta win on the tables to pay for it!

unknown_username

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donut, try not to think about it im sure its just paronia through being depressed. most places nowadays ppl dont care what you look like imo Have you got partner? close friends? family, i suggest do speak to one of the closest and do stuff to keep your mind of it. when you go out if with someone you wont really care as much chin up mate hope you get better soon, your top bloke im sure be ok soon just try not to think about it as hard as it is
Posted by YOUNG_GUN

 Not had a partner for a while and when I talk to my mate we tend to talk more about his problems. I have got an appiontment to see a "shrink" next Tuesday which at this moment in time is adding to my stress but hopefully will be benificial in the long run. I havent even played Poker for the last few days because my head is so messed up I cant concentrate the way my head is at the moment I would end up calling with an Orford striaght.

spornybol

hi donut, keep your chin up, i went though depression in my early 20s and was put hospital for a while, yes it took me a few years to get myself self-convidence back, and luckly my friends as well as family where there for me, so just ignore those muppets on the street shouting dum things, it just mean they have no life and want to be noticed we are all here for you, on the picture front are you two part off quads, i`m thinking the chuckle brothers 

YOUNG_GUN

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You could be in the book of records Donut for being the only guy in the World who's left eye is an inch lower than his right eye !  lol And "standing up for yourself" to those sort of idiots is not only pointless, it's exactly what they want to see - you gettin upset/wound up.  Chin up fella - No need to go out now anyway tesco deliver your beer, and dominoes your snap!! Just gotta win on the tables to pay for it!
Posted by DOHHHHHHH

jj not a good response kno bhead, if some guy is suffering depresion dont be making comments about there eyes or anything even if you put lol its bang out of order! im sure it was probably a joke but still shouldnt have put anything

If you here your mates problems alot, same as my mate did just tell em your not in a position to comment and have enough problems of your own they'll understand. best thing to do is  talk to someone, whether its your partner, friend, people on here you just need people to listen and need to get your confidence back.

Hope to see you at the tables soon bud chin up your a top man and dont let anyone tell you otherwise just ignore them no point biting back

unknown_username

 Its Ok I have have not taken any offence to any comments made by anyone on this thread. I know Im no oil painting (Picasso perhaps). I still do have a bit of my sense of humour left but my self confidence definatly will need some work.
 Thank you to all who replied tactfully or not!

spornybol

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 Its Ok I have have not taken any offence to any comments made by anyone on this thread. I know Im no oil painting (Picasso perhaps). I still do have a bit of my sense of humour left but my self confidence definatly will need some work.  Thank you to all who replied tactfully or not!
Posted by Donut64

looks ain`t nowt mate it`s down to respect and personnalty of which you seem to have plenty, so gl see on tables soon

DOHHHHHHH

lol r u serious???

Jeeeez Im not gonna seriously pick on a guy who's admitted he's depressed by saying he's got wonky eyes am I !!

Ff s it's the angle at which the picture was taken !!!!

Lighten up. 

Note also that I offered a serious reply below. Im not a shrink, the best way to approach situations like this (and general life imo) is with a pinch of humour. 

Apologies Donut if you were offended, but I don't believe for a 2nd u were. 

Good Luck. 

Bawhumm

I agree with JJ pinch of humour ftw, it made me chuckle

Take a picture whilst smiling Donut, i am sure it will look 100 times better.

If your positive in the inside it shows tenfold on the outside

unknown_username

Nothing wrong with having a wonky eye

One of my balls hangs lower than the right and its never upset me

Donut if you was in my family you would be the best looking one... oh apart from my Auntie Bruce

unknown_username

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I agree with JJ pinch of humour ftw, it made me chuckle Take a picture whilst smiling Donut, i am sure it will look 100 times better. If your positive in the inside it shows tenfold on the outside
Posted by Bawhumm

 The way I look does not matter!  Pretending to smile is not going to solve my state of mind.

IRISHROVER

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 Someone in the street just shouted at me "Major smackhead!" infact I have never taken any illegal drugs in my life. The reason I look the way I do is a mixture of Vertigo and depression.  I knew some people seemed to be looking at me stange and now I know what they are thinking. I dont feel as though I want to ever go out on my own again! I wish I was emotionally strong enough to stand up for myself but allas I am not.
Posted by Donut64

it saddens me to here this m8y ,

i felt like this when i was 12years old lasted for 3 years until i was

15 years old ,

then it just disappeared & never returned .

oh 2 be jessussss it was a  real tough time

i have sent you my email address ,

if you want to chat or just want  a listener just email  me bud .

i am on facebook also if you want to link up .

i say this to my boys if ever they feel unlucky or down .

think the chances/odds of this planet being created in the vastness of space ,

odds billions too  one

think of the chances of you being born in to it ,

pmsl when all your other swimming buddies/ sp erm  missed the spot

& you hit the target .( i explain this different to my kids lol )

odds billions too one .

now who is the lucky one ,

youuuuuu , meeeeeeee , himmmmmmmmm & herrrrrrr .

denis

unknown_username

hey donut,the confidence is there m8 you,ve got to find it i mean you were confident enough to put your picture up(numourous times) so that shows its there you got to work on it my friend

BananaDog

Hey honey,
People can be idiots and they don't help having attitudes like that!
You know where i am if u want me xxx

lozgo

Donut..i know how you feel. i suffer from bi-polar disorder and depression and getting out and about can be a nightmare. I do try and get out for an hour, if only to walk round the block. Don't worry (although you probably will), about going to see a shrink...they don't bite and most are very good. All the advice and help you can want will be available so don't be afraid to grab all you can; no-one will condemn you for doing so. As for people calling you names...my way of dealing with this is to use an mp3 player, it really helps!!!
Best wishes to you mate. If you need a chat just PM me.

YOUNG_GUN

jj apologise, i did think it was a joke just have to be careful sometimes i know your a properr joker so knew would be from the of just thought i would say just incase but donut dont seem to care anyways as he shouldnt

yeah drop me pm donut need anyone to chat to i will forward msn,facebook you on the right road mate, stoke spot on more confidence then me i wont post a picture of myself

Mr_Miyagi

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jj apologise, i did think it was a joke just have to be careful sometimes i know your a properr joker so knew would be from the of just thought i would say just incase but donut dont seem to care anyways as he shouldnt yeah drop me pm donut need anyone to chat to i will forward msn,facebook you on the right road mate, stoke spot on more confidence then me i wont post a picture of myself
Posted by YOUNG_GUN

So you mean your not the real Mr Noisy?

wartic

Donut, of the people that count in your life the persons who has the lowest opinion of you is the person that stares back in the mirror. My perception is that we all need people at times that we can relate to (maybe family maybe friends) and these are the people that will help you at this time. I like many who have replied to your thread have been depressed but I am lucky never to have been in the depths that some including yourself have found themselves in. Reach to those close to you they will be there for you
Bill

YOUNG_GUN

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Posted by Mr_Miyagi

Just mannerism's mate :P

unknown_username

Hi Donut, sorry to hear you're not well. Sounds like you're doing the right thing by getting some professional help so make sure you go to that appointment.

With regards to the sad individuals that made those comments ....... you should worry m8! People who do that kind of thing are the one's with the problem ..... trust me on this I work with them. The bully is actually scared and that's why they bully others. The loudmouth suffers from low self esteem and so shouts to cover it up and deflect attention from their own shortcomings.

OK so you're having some problems at the minute but with some help you can and will improve. I won't say cheer up because I realise you can't, that's why your seeking help and you are spot on with that. We all hope you feel better soon.

BTW that picture is ok ........ now if you saw a pic of me (after a serious headbutt in the mouth by my dog) you'd definitely feel better. Like you I'm doing something about it with some serious dental work next week, the only difference is mine's going to cost £600 (

loonytoons

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Hi Donut, sorry to hear you're not well. Sounds like you're doing the right thing by getting some professional help so make sure you go to that appointment. With regards to the sad individuals that made those comments ....... you should worry m8! People who do that kind of thing are the one's with the problem ..... trust me on this I work with them. The bully is actually scared and that's why they bully others. The loudmouth suffers from low self esteem and so shouts to cover it up and deflect attention from their own shortcomings. OK so you're having some problems at the minute but with some help you can and will improve. I won't say cheer up because I realise you can't, that's why your seeking help and you are spot on with that. We all hope you feel better soon. BTW that picture is ok ........ now if you saw a pic of me (after a serious headbutt in the mouth by my dog) you'd definitely feel better. Like you I'm doing something about it with some serious dental work next week, the only difference is mine's going to cost £600 (
Posted by elsadog

Your being ripped off mate, my vet only charged me £50 and that was for all my gnashers

unknown_username

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In Response to Re: Perceptions : Your being ripped off mate, my vet only charged me £50 and that was for all my gnashers
Posted by loonytoons

That's for me not the dog!!!  She just grinned and walked away and left me to pick up what was left of my front teeth. Bridge work is VERY expensive ......just ask Tikay he's a bridge specialist, I've heard.